The candles are lit and the soft jazz is playing in the background. Sitting on the coffee table next to the bearskin rug and the fireplace ablaze with flame is a nice glass of sweet red wine. The two of you are sitting and enjoying the fire, sipping wine, talking about your day and being playful with one another like lovers often do.  Reality check! Most nights there is no red wine, certainly no mood music and you can hardly enjoy the fireplace because the kids seem to gravitate towards the flame whenever it is roaring. After a long day at work the end of the day does not usually end with romance with ones spouse but rather it ends with the duties of the day and left is little time to nurture your marriage.  Working full time when you have a family presents certain challenges and it can seem near to impossible to find the time to rekindle romance with your spouse. With a little creativity and the right attitude, however, there is a way to work quality time in with your husband.

 

Let’s face it; children require their mother’s attention and care. Working moms go from a long day at the office and right to work at home thereafter. Caring for children can leave a mother feeling less like a sexy spouse and more like a tired, worn out mommy.  How can one find time to focus on their husband when the demands of caring for children are never ending?

Establishing a routine can help give you more time with your husband at the end of the day. If the children are in bed at a reasonable hour it will give the two of you a few quiet hours to spend with one another. Making a date with your spouse once per week is a great way to find a reason to put on that little black dress and have a nice dinner or your favorite pair of jeans and head to the beach for an evening stroll. Whatever the event you choose, make sure it will allow time for the two of you to connect.

 

Finding time in your marriage for your husband is a commitment especially when you are exhausted most days from a long day at work and juggling life demands. With the right attitude and taking the action steps necessary to allow for some one on one time with your husband you can begin to rekindle the romantic relationship you both deserve. Bearskin rugs, lit fireplaces and conversation over a glass of wine are not just for singles and those without kids. Even a married woman balancing a successful career and a family can find time to experience romance with her husband.  A little creativity goes a long way but as long as you have the desire and dedication towards your relationship ...a weekly date night is in your future as well as a close and meaningful relationship.